Courage is the resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not the absence of fear. Mark Twain
I have a soft spot in my heart for people who are dealing with significant anxiety. Anxiety can be the most overwhelming feeling you will likely ever have. A part of anxiety is imagining all the bad things that will happen if what you fear comes true.
This leads to avoidance of the very thing we need to do. By not engaging in the very behavior we to do need to overcome the fear, we maintain the fear we so desperately want to get rid of.
True courage is not the absence of fear. It is feeling the fear and doing what you fear anyways.
Want to overcome the fear speaking in public? Speak in public.
Overcome the fear of making mistakes? Make lots of mistakes.
Be able to handle rejection? Get rejected a lot.
Anxiety is often based on a false reality. We fear that rejection makes us unlovable. Or making a mistake make us less-than-perfect. The reality is that as humans we get rejected. We make mistakes. We face any number of situations where fear tells us we can’t do it.
Courage then is feeling that fear and doing the behavior anyways. Almost always the experience itself is less scary than we thought it was going to be.
To truly master the situation we need to expose ourselves again and again and again to what we fear which ends up taking the energy out of the fear allowing us to cope with the situation.
Now most of us don’t like getting rejected, but in time you will find it is not the big scary thing we made it out to be.
So if there is something causing angst in your life, realize that fear will make it seem worse.
The scary monster that we think is under the bed no longer bothers us when we realize that what we were telling ourselves about it isn’t really true.
Bottom line: Feel the fear and do it anyways.